Is social media ruining your relationship?

I bet a good number of you reading this will answer yes to this question. However, the real answer to this question depends on different other personal questions. The questions you should ask yourself are: “how are you using social media?” Are you allowing social media into your relationship?” And what are you doing that is destroying your relationship?”

Sadly, many of us, sometimes, ignore our real problems. Some of us, unleash these problems on social media and lastly, some of us just find our problems on social media. While the apparent connection between all three aspects can be social media, we must also determine how are these people using social media and why?

Personally, I use social media (Facebook) to catch up with old friends. It is my way of reconnecting and sometimes I use it as an advertising tool for my businesses. Now, I can proudly say that social media is nowhere around my relationship or my personal/private life. Therefore, in the case my relationship is destroyed, I’ll only have myself and my partner to blame for the ruin.

Unfortunately, not all of us can truthfully claim that. As it is clear that many use social media to meet people outside of their relationship, to expose or broadcast their relationship from the happiest moments to the most miserably, heart-wrenching moments. Some of us use it ‘supposedly’ solve our problems by posting your situations asking for people’s opinions or use it in lieu of a personal sitting, face to face discussion. In other words, some of us use social media to avoid facing and fixing our problems. This is the most dangerous way of letting social media into your relationship as it is not only immature, it takes away or ignore the real problems, leaving no rooms for fixing since we cannot determine the cause in the first place.

We all know we should, under no circumstances, not to let people and social media into our relationship, ever.  So, until you can decide in which of these three categories of people you belong and come up with a resolution, your relationship will know many headaches, but let me reassure you that it is not social media’s causing. It is time we look within and start taking responsibilty for our actions. Just as social media can help us, if we misuse it, we can destroy our whole being. So, the deal is to use it moderately, use it smart and keep our private life just that, private.  Try it and let me know how it works out for you! 

Maybe you gave her the reasons to…

Since there are countless numbers of articles about giving him the reasons to, we’ll make this about her.

Some of you guys are probably always wondering about why women do some of the things they do, like constantly doubting you, always arguing, always asking questions, etc… Now, just stop and reflect on yourselves for one minute and see what you could be doing in these situations.

Now, if you follow my blog or the couple of articles I have written, you will realize that I am always advising and encouraging women to avoid sticky and toxic relationships as much as possible. I do not necessarily believe in arguing and doubts in a healthy relationship. Trust is one of the most important and necessary factors for a healthy or a serious relationship. If she does not trust you, you don’t have a relationship yet.

To get back to why is she always doubting you, it is probably because you always give her reasons to. What I mean is, if you give her reason to doubt your words just once, she will not only doubt everything about you but also every day. It really is not that complicated, just avoid creating doubts by not always suspiciously be on the phone and quickly hides or close something when she shows up. That’s suspicious and she will most definitely ask you questions, believe you can avoid this argument, don’t lie. Tell her the truth and be willing to show her if she needs it. At the end of the day, you did decide on having a serious, healthy relationship with her, so why not keep everything healthy.

Gentlemen, when you lie to her, if she doesn’t already know the truth, she will find out soon enough. So, don’t risk having her arguing and doubting. Some guys will lie about the smallest and stupidest thing ever. Then, you wonder and even complain that she is the problem.

But this problem could simply be you, but your self-claimed manhood and conceit does not let you see it. Next time, think maybe I am giving her the reasons to. What if I try a different method, maybe she could respond differently.

P.S. Women don’t like to talk and argue, if you don’t answer and when asked a question, go around it and start blaming them or shaming them, then you have open their talking jaws. It is not like they love arguing with you and be mad. Again, what are you doing that is causing all the talking and arguing.  Also, keep in mind that there is a huge difference between asking a question, talking and arguing. Confusing these three could be one of the problems.

Just a quick hello

Hello gorgeous peeps,
I have truly missed writing as it is truly how I can express my dearest feelings. However, I have also been seriously occupied with some very serious and possibly life-changing decisions and occupations. Once settled, I should be able to continue on with this exciting part of my life. Until then, stay tuned and keep asking your questions. I’ll do my best to answer them as I possibly can.

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Stop complaining, find your place!

Hello there folks,

If there is one thing I hate is people complaining, but nothing is worst than people complaining about their job at work. I mean seriously, you are still there obviously. Stop complaining about things you hate, instead focus on what makes your job worth it. What most of us fail to understand is that unless it is your own company, you will always have things you do not agree with or love. There will always be things that do not necessarily work for you, but guess what? You either deal with it or you get out. You still being there means there are still some goods, so stop complaining and start learning to appreciate a bit. Understand that whatever works for you does not necessarily work for everybody, so, unless you are really being treated poorly, stop it. I am sure you have a choice, if it does not work for you, you can always find what works, but the complaining and trying to bring everyone down must stop. There is absolutely nothing wrong with not loving your job anymore or not agreeing with some policies, but the truth is, you’ll never agree all the way with any company’s policies, there will always be that one thing that gets to you. It is up to you to decide if you can deal with it or not.

Complaining left and right does not help anyone, definitely does not change your situation, so stop complaining and find your place. That place you can deal with, that place you enjoy going to everyday and do not need to complain about. So, just stop complaining and move on!

Meeting the kids!!

I must say that I am very old-fashioned and came come off a bit harsh, but don’t bring anyone to meet your kids just because. Don’t bring people to your home just because in the first place, let alone play with your kids.

I get it, you are dating this guy or this lady and you feel like he or she should meet your kids, but don’t unless you are both sure this is what you want and certainly before you are sure who this person is. Don’t judge me for watching too many movies and reading too many stories, but you don’t know the person well enough after a few weeks. It’s not that serious, take your time. Don’t put your family, your home or your life in danger just because. It’s all fun and game until that time. Not to be negative, but I’d rather be safe than sorry.

So, to answer the question,the best time to bring a guy to meet your kids is when you are both sure and ready. You can never trust anyone but you’ll know what someone’s intention may be after a little while (not just a few weeks). At the end of the day though, only you can decide when the best time is, but be mindful of your kids, your home and yourself as you don’t know ho you’re bringing home and there have been horror stories, real life stories, so just be careful!