Self-righteous and Judgmental

I really can’t stand that. Nobody on earth can always be right. Unless your name is God, you are not to judge anyone. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll admit that I do judge sometimes, but regardless, we should not be so quick to judge anyone because you don’t know anyone’s true story. Maybe if the case was reversed , you could have acted, done the same.
I don’t like people who think they are always so right because quite frankly, everybody makes mistakes and that is one way we learn as human. So, don’t think you know everything and you’re always right. In any situation, whether relationship, family or friendship, no good can come out of it. So, stop hurting yourself because, while you may not realize how much you are missing out on, sooner or later, you’ll find out. You have to keep an open mind so you can better understand others and life itself. That way, you’ll live a more fulfilled and joyous life.

Try to live life as it is and try to avoid as many complications as you can.

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Negativity

Hello there folks, today I want to talk about negativity. That may include everything from objects to people. But, I’ll be touching on negative people today.

I hate negativity and I am one of those people with too many ambitions and the worst thing is that I actually believe that i will accomplish all of them in due time. Anyway, today I want to touch on negativity, sometimes, you may feel like maybe you are not getting to the place where you should be and that is because of negativity, it maybe that you keep looking and going to the negative places or maybe the people you surround yourself with bring in that negativity unto you.

So, what should you do in that case? You should clear it, get rid of whatever it may be and you’ll see the difference. Sometimes, the people you consider your friends are not so much, if all you guys do is arguing and you always find yourself always in some sort of competition, then, get rid of it. I don’t mean you should just take that person out of your life, but distance yourself from anything that is not allowing to fully grow because you can certainly go on to do great things in life. I know people like that, all they do is judge and they always have to be right and try to belittling you all the time, thinking it makes them look more this or that, believe me, it’s all negativity.

You have friends with the lowest self-esteem  in the world and everything you’ve tried to make that person understand who he or she really is and it is not working. Four words, get rid of it. It is not helping you and it may be rubbing off on you. It is not about being mean or anything, you just can’t spend your whole life catering and babysit people when you have so much to do. That is not fair and certainly unhealthy.  Negative people are the ugliest. Anyone who does nothing but judge and quickly criticizing everything you do or say is never right. Believe me, it is not worth it, just leave it alone and you can be that person’s friend from a certain distance. Negativity should not be around you when you are striving hard to be the best you can. These people are bringing you down and you just need to let them go.

 

If Only You Knew!!!

I went to church and part of the message was about women who do not know their worth. I thought, I should definitely write about this because so many women out there aren’t fully aware of how worthy they truly are.

So many young women struggle with self-esteem issues and believe me I know how that can make you feel. But, know that you are worth so much more than you will ever really understand. God created you to be so important and you should know that. You are made to be beautiful, so just be that.

One important thing the lady said was that some of us, women do not know how to appreciate and take compliments. A compliment is meant to be just that. Don’t fall in love with someone just because he says “you’re beautiful”. You should have already known that, so that is no surprise to you. You must say thanks because it is a nice gesture and thank him for noticing. Now, some people will say that you are conceited but don’t you have a good reason to be? Don’t fall in love or sleep with guys too quickly. I understand when you are dealing with self-esteem issues, you need attention and when you get the least bit of it, you tend to go crazy. Stop that and you have no reason to be having those self-esteem issues in the first place. God knows how beautiful you are whether you are thin, extra thin, average, big-boned, big or huge. It really doesn’t matter. You need to know that you are made to be beautiful so, always remember that and believe that you are a beautiful and very important creature. Those people who are destroying your self-esteem know it way too well, that’s why they want you to destroy yourself.

Believe in yourself and one thing I hate when some women do is that they go chasing men, married or single. What is wrong with you? If a man is married or in any type of relationship with any other woman, he is unavailable. Get that in your head, he is unavailable. Don’t listen to the beautiful, sweet nothings this man will be telling you , he is not for you and you should know better. Also, that is a sign of disrespect towards both of you as women. If he is in a relationship, he should not have come to you in the first place and you should not allow him under any circumstances. If you like a man and he is not willing to make an effort to show you his interest, don’t chase him. It is not your job.  As women, when we like a guy, he will know it without us even saying anything because we have that gift. So, the thing is if the guy is not responding well to your natural signals, he is either slow or just not interested because if he was, he would pick them up very quickly. Whatever you do, never chase a guy, it is not your place. You can do your part but he has to be willing to do his. Stop the chasing, you are worth so much more!

Don’t go sleeping with guys just because, don’t do it. Unlike most guys, women have the capability to get emotionally attached and as I always say, once I am attached, I know, I am just attached. So try to avoid putting yourself in extra vulnerable situations where you are subject to serious disappointments. Just because a guy compliments you or treat you nice, you do not have to sleep with him. He should compliment and treat you nice. You very much deserve it, it’s not a favor. People will say that I am very conceited, but, in reality, I have all the rights to be. Also, it is not about being conceited, it is more about knowing yourself. I know who I am and I won’t allow anyone to tell me otherwise. Learn to know yourself, love and respect yourself. I always tell my friends, no one will ever love me more than I love myself.

Ladies, you are so beautiful and worthy. It hurts to see so many of you are unaware of that and fall for anything that is out there. Stop putting yourself in situations you have no business in and don’t let people play with your mind into thinking you are only a sex object and you have to do this to be beautiful or acceptable. Those same people are making money off of you because you let them play with your mind. It’s about that time, you stop and take a look at yourself. Think, if it was not for us, women, those people could not have been there in the first place. They don’t know how you got there and don’t let them take you out. Love yourself as much as you can and you’ll understand why God loves you so much. You are worth so much and if only you knew that, you would have people kneeling at your feet and running after you because you are that powerful and beautiful. So, don’t let people tell you otherwise.

Too Old, I Think Not!!

    A lot of young women think that well, I am 34 years old, so, I have to be married and have a family already or else, it may never happen because I am already too old. Quite frankly, there is no such thing as too old. Why is it that guys rarely even care about their age. They could not care any less how old they are because being young is not necessarily determined by your age. If your spirit is young, believe, you are young because you look and act it.

     Do not get me wrong, I am not talking immature, just young. Being young does not necessarily means you are immature. I have heard so many women say this, well, I have to find me a man now or it just might be too late. What you seem to forget is that one is never too late for love. I have seen the oldest people getting married and falling in love all over again. It’s not so much a matter of age, but if you keep pushing yourself into relationship just because, you will regret it. Just because you are in your late 20’s or 30’s, does bot mean the romance word is all closed for you. It is still very young.

     Plus, if anything, I think guys should worry more about becoming too old if anyone has to worry at all because they take such a long time to mature. So, while women are out there worrying about getting married, men their age are just enjoying life.  We, women have absolutely nothing to worry about and I have seen this one too many times before, when women feel that way about their love life, they tend to settle for anything. That is just unacceptable and totally excusable. You have got to know better. Also, before you can get into a relationship or get married, you have to make sure that everything in your life is in check. Marriage comes with different responsibilities and challenges, so, ask yourself, before you run into one just because you fear your time may be running out, are you truly ready for that giant shift.

       Make sure, everything in your life is in order for such change before you go crazy about getting married. Take your time and let God works because if and when your time should come, you must be ready then. Also, remember that, while God has created women to fulfill the earth in the proper way (which would be getting married and have children with your husband), not everyone is destined to be married or have children. So, take your time and talk to God, then, you’ll do what you need to do. However, you should never rush into any type of relationship, especially, marriage.

Learning Spanish!

So, I decided, I am going to work on my Spanish for good this time. One day, I just may post in Spanish.. YAYYYYY, I am so excited. So, if you know Spanish, don’t judge or laugh because I am still learning and probably will always be learning. Unfortunately, I shall not speak Spanish with any Miami workers who have no knowledge of English because while I am trying and I am not mad at all at them for not speaking English, they get very upset with me for not speaking Spanish. So, I must still speak to those rude ones in English.

Peeples

      So, I watched “Peeples” last night and I am not sure how I feel about it. while I think it was very funny and also a good movie but it irked my nerves a little.  It’s really no one’s fault but I realize that these things really do happen in real life and I just pictured myself in this poor guy’s shoes and I didn’t like it.

      If you have yet to see this movie, don’t worry, I will try my best not to spoil it for you. Now, I loved the humor and I laughed as hard as I could whenever necessary but why so many stupid secrets though? It almost made no sense to me. I really had a different understanding of friendship and family and one thing I liked, though, is that these issues exist in real families and relationships. This movie shows that while you may have fortune, fame or whatever, communication is very important in both romantic relationship and family.

      Parents, you need to learn how to love and talk to your children, don’t focus so much on your status and having your kids praising you so much that they are scared to talk to you about important stuff. You have got to be cool and open because as your children are growing they will be making different decisions and you don’t want to be left out of those just because they are afraid to talk to you. While you have to be a parent and I understand that it is very different from being a friend, you should leave room for a little comfort because it will surely help your relationship.If your children cannot talk to you, that may be a problem.

      Everybody knows that I hate lies already, so it’s fair to say I cannot stand secrets. You cannot have secrets in a relationship although  he should have noticed those two round secrets there, but let’s not go there. You should not have that many secrets in a serious relationship period. If you really see a future with a person, why would you keep that person a secret from your family for so long? That makes no sense to me, while there might have been reasons to make it difficult to tell them, you are grown, you should have been ready to have that talk with your folks, it is just that. It was to a point where I thought the man should have left because while I understand that she was afraid of her father, but she could have at least stand up for him a couple of times. Those things just did not click with me and it is sad for me to think that it really happens.

     Anyway, all these different things show how important communication is. It is not always about being a dictator, overly protective or having to live to different societal standards, you must have and maintain a great relationship with your family because that is very important. Also, learn to have less secrets because I know, there will be some secrets sometimes, but try not to have so many secrets especially about these things that are so important. The lying really has to stop because I am pretty sure everybody hates to be lied to, so try not to do it and learn to communicate in any type of relationships.

  • I really hope I did not spoil it too much for those who have not seen it and if I did, well, I apologize.

Life Lessons!

It’s funny how much you can learn from life.
I always tell people, every opportunity you face, good or bad, every obstacle is also a learning opportunity. Believe me, I know from experience. Most things you go through in life, at the time, it may seem overbearing and you may feel like you can’t take it anymore, which may be one of the reasons of suicide, drugs, alcohol and many more, but believe me, God is just preparing you for what is yet to come. I would not be who I am today if it wasn’t for the things I have known and endured, it may have been rough but it did, in fact, help me grow as a person. I see things and people differently and I understand life a little differently.

           I believe everything happens for a reason and whatever the reason, you just gotta wait for God to do what he and only himself can do. While some people may think I am mean, some think I am shy, some others think nice, some think I am picky, crazy, or whatever. I am actually neither, really. I choose to live my life the best way I can, adapt to situations and people as they come and as I see fit. That is my simple method and I have found it is a great way to live. It’s not so much that I don’t or people shouldn’t trust others, I just believe when you are too quick to trust or expect, you get hurt as quickly. So, you have to be cautious. And, I do not put up a crazily high wall for people, because those who should and want to get in try to find a way to get in and some succeed. You just need to be extra cautious and learn to know yourself and see what works best for you.

          So, I don’t think I am mean, crazy (well, maybe a little), shy or anything. I just live simply to be happy and enjoy life. I love having a great time and one thing I refuse to do is live for others. I will do what is best for me, you should not care what others think of you or make important life decisions based on what others want for you, you gotta live for you and your choices have to be from you and God. So, when you are going through any situation in life, instead of focusing on the negatives, although it is very hard not to, I know but remember that everything happens for a reason and this is one lesson that you will benefit from in the future. Believe me, one day, you’ll look back at these situations and/or people and you will say nothing but a great, big thanks because while they might have hurt you in that specific moment, you have also learned something valuable. I believe obstacles and rough time are there for a greater purpose and you have to open yourself up for it when it comes. It may be preparing you for something worse or helping you prevent something worse.

So, when you face these challenges, don’t give up too quickly because you may be missing out on so much more!