So, I’m walking with my friend and she saw this guy and she tapped me saying how good-looking this guy is. Since I did not see the guy, I turned around and he was not bad-looking.
Now, being the super crazy (out of this world) person that I am (I have been told), I went ahead and approached the guy. I told him exactly what it was -which is that we both felt that he was good-looking and I walked away. As we were walking away, he turned around and say that we can’t say something like that and walk away. Honestly, I don’t want to date the guy, I just though he was handsome and I felt that he should be aware of his handsomeness.
See, my friend is worried that the guy may think we want him or we are “thirsty” as she put it. I may be living in a totally different world, but I honestly believe that complimenting anyone -may it be a woman or a man cannot declare one’s thirst or interest. I don’t know how is it that women love to get compliments but are afraid to reciprocate. I am one of these women who would walk to a guy I have absolutely no interest in, complete stranger and compliment them. I truly believe that it can, in fact, turn someone’s day around. I also noticed that not many of us are open to positivity. For instance, in the case we have to call a man “a jerk”, we are very eager and quick to proceed, but when it’s anything positive, it’s a whole different story.
I am not sure how men really see it, but I must assume that one must be extremely “disoriented and insecure” to think we want them just because of a simple compliment. I can tell the difference between a simple, innocent compliment and a flirty one. I may be wrong to assume that most people can also tell. I see no reason why I can’t tell a man he looks great, just like I believe some guys compliment me just because. It is totally okay and as long as it is true, I am not lying to the person, I will remind him of his good looks or awesome personality, nice smile… you name it. I don’t see the big deal, but we all see things differently. If the man looks good, you let him know he does!