DYU Chronicles

       “And no, it has never been about being right, but always have been about being true. “.      

                                     missduchat

        

    It does not matter what it is, but       the truth is always and will remain the     right thing. So, forget who is right and     who may be wrong. Speak the truth and   watch what happens. A few tears may       be shed, a friendship or relationship         may slip (or even fail) but it is going to     be okay. They always say “the truth will   set you free,” well they were not lying       about that.

Hurt me, break me with the truth, I’ll handle it!

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#DYU Chronicles

What If we were just to live in the moment?
What if we were just to accept that we cannot control everything?

Well, then, the world would have probably ended sooner as we would know what is called a more peaceful place. Perhaps, we would even go as hard as to appreciate our lives and be thankful for what we have instead of desperately  chasing after what we do not have. maybe, we would even go as far as being happy for those who have what we do not have, we, maybe, could have learned to encourage and respect others instead of constantly envying and killing each other.

Hm, this is nothing but a dream and wishful thinking. I have learned to realize that we have got nothing on time. What should be will be, but only in its own (best) time. We very seldom know why things happen the way they do and at the time they happen, but time has its way of proving itself. So, feel like everything is turning upside down around you and you cannot get anything right, well, it is not yet the time and make a list of all the things that are going alright, then, you’ll see all the goods that surround you. Let us stop comparing ourselves to our neighbors, you will only know how to be you.

What if we would just stop wasting our time?

Is social media ruining your relationship?

I bet a good number of you reading this will answer yes to this question. However, the real answer to this question depends on different other personal questions. The questions you should ask yourself are: “how are you using social media?” Are you allowing social media into your relationship?” And what are you doing that is destroying your relationship?”

Sadly, many of us, sometimes, ignore our real problems. Some of us, unleash these problems on social media and lastly, some of us just find our problems on social media. While the apparent connection between all three aspects can be social media, we must also determine how are these people using social media and why?

Personally, I use social media (Facebook) to catch up with old friends. It is my way of reconnecting and sometimes I use it as an advertising tool for my businesses. Now, I can proudly say that social media is nowhere around my relationship or my personal/private life. Therefore, in the case my relationship is destroyed, I’ll only have myself and my partner to blame for the ruin.

Unfortunately, not all of us can truthfully claim that. As it is clear that many use social media to meet people outside of their relationship, to expose or broadcast their relationship from the happiest moments to the most miserably, heart-wrenching moments. Some of us use it ‘supposedly’ solve our problems by posting your situations asking for people’s opinions or use it in lieu of a personal sitting, face to face discussion. In other words, some of us use social media to avoid facing and fixing our problems. This is the most dangerous way of letting social media into your relationship as it is not only immature, it takes away or ignore the real problems, leaving no rooms for fixing since we cannot determine the cause in the first place.

We all know we should, under no circumstances, not to let people and social media into our relationship, ever.  So, until you can decide in which of these three categories of people you belong and come up with a resolution, your relationship will know many headaches, but let me reassure you that it is not social media’s causing. It is time we look within and start taking responsibilty for our actions. Just as social media can help us, if we misuse it, we can destroy our whole being. So, the deal is to use it moderately, use it smart and keep our private life just that, private.  Try it and let me know how it works out for you! 

Maybe you gave her the reasons to…

Since there are countless numbers of articles about giving him the reasons to, we’ll make this about her.

Some of you guys are probably always wondering about why women do some of the things they do, like constantly doubting you, always arguing, always asking questions, etc… Now, just stop and reflect on yourselves for one minute and see what you could be doing in these situations.

Now, if you follow my blog or the couple of articles I have written, you will realize that I am always advising and encouraging women to avoid sticky and toxic relationships as much as possible. I do not necessarily believe in arguing and doubts in a healthy relationship. Trust is one of the most important and necessary factors for a healthy or a serious relationship. If she does not trust you, you don’t have a relationship yet.

To get back to why is she always doubting you, it is probably because you always give her reasons to. What I mean is, if you give her reason to doubt your words just once, she will not only doubt everything about you but also every day. It really is not that complicated, just avoid creating doubts by not always suspiciously be on the phone and quickly hides or close something when she shows up. That’s suspicious and she will most definitely ask you questions, believe you can avoid this argument, don’t lie. Tell her the truth and be willing to show her if she needs it. At the end of the day, you did decide on having a serious, healthy relationship with her, so why not keep everything healthy.

Gentlemen, when you lie to her, if she doesn’t already know the truth, she will find out soon enough. So, don’t risk having her arguing and doubting. Some guys will lie about the smallest and stupidest thing ever. Then, you wonder and even complain that she is the problem.

But this problem could simply be you, but your self-claimed manhood and conceit does not let you see it. Next time, think maybe I am giving her the reasons to. What if I try a different method, maybe she could respond differently.

P.S. Women don’t like to talk and argue, if you don’t answer and when asked a question, go around it and start blaming them or shaming them, then you have open their talking jaws. It is not like they love arguing with you and be mad. Again, what are you doing that is causing all the talking and arguing.  Also, keep in mind that there is a huge difference between asking a question, talking and arguing. Confusing these three could be one of the problems.

What do men want?

So, I received this email asking me this question, “What do men want?”

Quite frankly, I have no clue. Apparently, as difficult to understand as men seem to believe women are, it seems that women feel the same way about men. Personally, I don’t think there is any way to know what a person wants unless the person tells you very explicitly what it is he or she wants.

I agree sometimes people can be quite confusing with their feelings and that is somewhat normal. Some guys will probably make you feel like they care today and the next day, they act a little different and that can be confusing. However, I believe that is normal and if you find yourself in this situation, you can always ask the guy what he really wants. Us, women can be a little indecisive sometimes too and we often confuse guys the same way. Sometimes, it may be simply because we want to be sure and certain and we have not found that certainty just yet, sometimes we can also be confused with ourselves or it may just as well be our insecurities at times.

Let’s not confuse ourselves even more and get too worked up about what men want. Instead, let’s ask them and if we can’t do that, let’s just let things be and just be happy as it is. Sometimes, we, women, tend to over-think things and we worry more than we should.

So, to answer this question, men want the same things we want which is a better and happy life. We are all under tremendous pressure and are all looking for the very best and sometimes, it may take us a while to figure out what is best and when it’s best. Ask your man what he wants if you really need to know but always remember that men hate being pressured (well, that’s all humans) and they can take an awful longer time to finally decide on certain things, relationship included. So, be careful, smart and mindful.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

Hello folks,

I know I’m extremely late but I still want a chance to wish everyone a very Happy New Year full of success, health and prosperity. Remember, resolutions should be made every day and most importantly, they should be executed. Every day is a new beginning as it is a blessing. Never forget to thank and praise God for every breathing second as we do not deserve any of his blessings. Some people did not even get a chance to wish their loved one Happy New Year. That should be our number one resolution and motivation. Let us make the best of this new year and keep working as hard as we can!

On a different note, I have questions to answer and new discussions coming up muy pronto (I told you I was learning Spanish, hopefully I’ll be able to write a whole post in Spanish soon.)

Have a blissful day and enjoy!