#DYU Chronicles

What If we were just to live in the moment?
What if we were just to accept that we cannot control everything?

Well, then, the world would have probably ended sooner as we would know what is called a more peaceful place. Perhaps, we would even go as hard as to appreciate our lives and be thankful for what we have instead of desperately  chasing after what we do not have. maybe, we would even go as far as being happy for those who have what we do not have, we, maybe, could have learned to encourage and respect others instead of constantly envying and killing each other.

Hm, this is nothing but a dream and wishful thinking. I have learned to realize that we have got nothing on time. What should be will be, but only in its own (best) time. We very seldom know why things happen the way they do and at the time they happen, but time has its way of proving itself. So, feel like everything is turning upside down around you and you cannot get anything right, well, it is not yet the time and make a list of all the things that are going alright, then, you’ll see all the goods that surround you. Let us stop comparing ourselves to our neighbors, you will only know how to be you.

What if we would just stop wasting our time?

Is social media ruining your relationship?

I bet a good number of you reading this will answer yes to this question. However, the real answer to this question depends on different other personal questions. The questions you should ask yourself are: “how are you using social media?” Are you allowing social media into your relationship?” And what are you doing that is destroying your relationship?”

Sadly, many of us, sometimes, ignore our real problems. Some of us, unleash these problems on social media and lastly, some of us just find our problems on social media. While the apparent connection between all three aspects can be social media, we must also determine how are these people using social media and why?

Personally, I use social media (Facebook) to catch up with old friends. It is my way of reconnecting and sometimes I use it as an advertising tool for my businesses. Now, I can proudly say that social media is nowhere around my relationship or my personal/private life. Therefore, in the case my relationship is destroyed, I’ll only have myself and my partner to blame for the ruin.

Unfortunately, not all of us can truthfully claim that. As it is clear that many use social media to meet people outside of their relationship, to expose or broadcast their relationship from the happiest moments to the most miserably, heart-wrenching moments. Some of us use it ‘supposedly’ solve our problems by posting your situations asking for people’s opinions or use it in lieu of a personal sitting, face to face discussion. In other words, some of us use social media to avoid facing and fixing our problems. This is the most dangerous way of letting social media into your relationship as it is not only immature, it takes away or ignore the real problems, leaving no rooms for fixing since we cannot determine the cause in the first place.

We all know we should, under no circumstances, not to let people and social media into our relationship, ever.  So, until you can decide in which of these three categories of people you belong and come up with a resolution, your relationship will know many headaches, but let me reassure you that it is not social media’s causing. It is time we look within and start taking responsibilty for our actions. Just as social media can help us, if we misuse it, we can destroy our whole being. So, the deal is to use it moderately, use it smart and keep our private life just that, private.  Try it and let me know how it works out for you! 

Just a quick hello

Hello gorgeous peeps,
I have truly missed writing as it is truly how I can express my dearest feelings. However, I have also been seriously occupied with some very serious and possibly life-changing decisions and occupations. Once settled, I should be able to continue on with this exciting part of my life. Until then, stay tuned and keep asking your questions. I’ll do my best to answer them as I possibly can.

A plus!

Stop complaining, find your place!

Hello there folks,

If there is one thing I hate is people complaining, but nothing is worst than people complaining about their job at work. I mean seriously, you are still there obviously. Stop complaining about things you hate, instead focus on what makes your job worth it. What most of us fail to understand is that unless it is your own company, you will always have things you do not agree with or love. There will always be things that do not necessarily work for you, but guess what? You either deal with it or you get out. You still being there means there are still some goods, so stop complaining and start learning to appreciate a bit. Understand that whatever works for you does not necessarily work for everybody, so, unless you are really being treated poorly, stop it. I am sure you have a choice, if it does not work for you, you can always find what works, but the complaining and trying to bring everyone down must stop. There is absolutely nothing wrong with not loving your job anymore or not agreeing with some policies, but the truth is, you’ll never agree all the way with any company’s policies, there will always be that one thing that gets to you. It is up to you to decide if you can deal with it or not.

Complaining left and right does not help anyone, definitely does not change your situation, so stop complaining and find your place. That place you can deal with, that place you enjoy going to everyday and do not need to complain about. So, just stop complaining and move on!

Meeting the kids!!

I must say that I am very old-fashioned and came come off a bit harsh, but don’t bring anyone to meet your kids just because. Don’t bring people to your home just because in the first place, let alone play with your kids.

I get it, you are dating this guy or this lady and you feel like he or she should meet your kids, but don’t unless you are both sure this is what you want and certainly before you are sure who this person is. Don’t judge me for watching too many movies and reading too many stories, but you don’t know the person well enough after a few weeks. It’s not that serious, take your time. Don’t put your family, your home or your life in danger just because. It’s all fun and game until that time. Not to be negative, but I’d rather be safe than sorry.

So, to answer the question,the best time to bring a guy to meet your kids is when you are both sure and ready. You can never trust anyone but you’ll know what someone’s intention may be after a little while (not just a few weeks). At the end of the day though, only you can decide when the best time is, but be mindful of your kids, your home and yourself as you don’t know ho you’re bringing home and there have been horror stories, real life stories, so just be careful!